Need advice on stubborn W

[AKuei]

Thanks for the great insights LH. Like i mentioned earlier, her moving out might be the start of her rock bottom.

I didn't have the courage back then to send her packing because of the kids and the fear of the unknown. I've always been a nice guy and put her on a pedestal, thinking that I can just satisfy her with things she wants (gifts, meals, vacation, etc). I was brought up by my parents that money is quite important and earning them is top priority. So I spent most of my time climbing the corporate ladder.

And you are gonna be mostly right, when she wakes up I probably won't be around anymore because too much damage and too much time has pass.

I really want to go to a place where I can be ok with divorce and living for myself and my kids. I wish that this separation not only gives me the time to bring myself to that place, it also will allow my W to come back to her senses because I can see that she's clearly driving herself off a cliff.

She just sent me a calendar invite titled "House viewing". I felt like she's once again trying to take a swipe at me and bait me into reacting.