Thanks all so far for responding, I've pulled back a bit and I am trying to find the right balance between showing love and patience and having some time for myself. I have continued to do the things I was doing when my wife left such as walking more and reading more again, its hard to do anything else to be honest has Covid restrictions are in place currently.
So we've not had sex in a couple of weeks and when I initiated some contact my wife had said her libido was just so low right now so i've backed off on that front too. We do have a cuddle on the sofa and a we do still kiss but usually all of these things are initiated by me but quite honestly I feel like I should just stop because after I initiate it bothers me afterwards that its me initiating the affection all the time. My wife did say shes not 100% there right now which I am not quite sure I understand. I suspect the initial anger she had for the OM has wore off and as you've said Sandi she is now being hit with the withdrawals
Just feeling pretty down right now after that intense period we had where she seemed to be doing all the right things like apologising, recognising what she had done, initiating affection and saying ILY etc.
