I’ve actually asked myself that question many times. I doubt he’ll teach him anything of importance because he doesn’t value the things that are important— honesty, integrity, courage, fidelity, patience, sacrifice, gratitude etc. My stepdad is a wonderful and very present role model for S2 who spends time with him weekly. I’ve got some high quality male friends and partners of friends who see themselves as uncles, too.
X ditched both his visitations this week citing another pending COVID test and work commitments, but asked for a morning breakfast to make up for the missed time, which I had no reason to refuse.
Apparently S2 hasn’t seen OW in weeks. X took S2 to see his family on Sunday and OW didn’t go with them. He texted that he’d be late for pickup. I didn’t hear him knock when he arrived. So he stood there silently for ten minutes then texted in a snit to say he had been waiting. Why didn’t he just knock again?!
Still no response about changing the parenting plan. Going on three weeks of silence now.
Life is very good. We have only two active COVID cases in our state and have had zero new cases since July. So things are pretty well back to normal. S2 is doing toddler gymnastics and toddler karate every week which is fun.
I’ve finally got my bedroom all set up. It’s all new, from the bed frame to the mattress to the sheets to the bedside tables. There’s nothing in there that X has touched. Lots of potted green plants and inspirational artwork and a neutral charcoal, grey and oatmeal colour scheme. It’s very peaceful.
I’m thinking about putting my useless degree to work and writing a novel. It’s been ten years since graduating uni so my skills are pretty rusty. But a story idea is there.
It’s interesting how my mindset has shifted since all this happened. I find myself tending to a life that is very deliberate and meaningful. Down to the little things like buying the nice cheese at the store, and making sure the ice cube tray is stocked for a cold drink, and having avocados in the fruit bowl at all times. Just being present in the moment and grateful at all times. A humbling sense of peace and contentment.
