Let me ask you this... Would your old wife not want to wake up with her children on her birthday - to have them jump on your best and say Happy Birthday mum etc..
I suspect she would have loved it..
Heres the thing..The wife you knew is gone.. and to a degree ( certainly in my sitch ) the mother to your kids you knew is gone as well..
Replaced by somebody who's actions are pure selfish.. Hence she no longer cares if she wakes up in the house with her kids..
You cant change her or her actions. I suspect these actions will upset the children, so just be there for them.. Prepare for the worst ( divorce ) and plan for being the best father you can be.. Let her enjoy the car crash decissions she makes .
The old W will definitely like to wake up on her birthday morning with the kids greeting her, go for a good meal and have a fabulous cake. She told me me before that a birthday is a must no matter what.
I think it's the fact that I can see her really going to crash and burn with all her decisions yet I cannot help her. I've read NMMNG and I identify as one; which i need to find someone to fix and have a covert contract with in order to gain the love i need. The helplessness in me is out of this world.
I've gotten a good L from a buddy that's pro-men (because laws here in Singapore favors women considerably). I'm gonna have to start to make an appointment to prepare for the worst case in the event of a D.
I really want to slap and shake myself really hard right now. I'm feeling like sheet because I'm weak and fearful. I'm taking baby steps in improving myself and getting back my confidence but the arduously slow pace is wreaking havoc in my mind.
Are there any other books/resources that I can latch on to keep my mind from thinking stupid stuff? I'm finishing up on "The subtle of not giving a F*&(" and some of stuff in there really resonated with me...
M(36), W(36), D(6), D(4) M-7, T-8 Bomb Drop - Nov 28, 2019 W requested separation - Sep 30, 2020
