I politely disagree with the premise, "because the amount of sex inevitably falls, especially after remarriage." My ex-GF was married longer than I was, for 25 years, and the sex never dropped off. A fall-off isn't inevitable. Like any other dating compatibility area--don't pretend to like what you don't.
Originally Posted by "Dr. Gail Saltz"
When couples stop having sex, their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce. If your sex drives are out of balance, your aim is to meet in the middle, having sex a bit more than one partner likes, but probably a bit less than the other likes.
As preferences change--with medical conditions, hormonal shifts, crime, and age.. communication and compromise are solid plans. "I can't for a few days because I have a yeast infection." is hard to say but easier to deal with than having multiple plans for a romantic evening inexplicably rejected. A partner who stopped having sex regularly for a year+ and wouldn't talk about or work on that would be a deal-breaker.
Thanks CWarrior, just know that such wasn't my conclusion. I was merely asking for feedback. And the less important assumption is the amount of sex; the more important one is that men, when on the rebound, will MISTAKE an intense sexual relationship, pre-second-marriage, for love. Then, once married, they learn otherwise. They find out that, absent an intense sexual relationship there is not much that feels like love, and if they haven't fixed themselves first they find themselves divorcing again.
