Friends, what do I do? Part of me wants to write an email and say how much I have loved him, beyond anyone else in my life, for years and years. And that the list was all about HIM. And the other part of me wants to continue this new, true detachment and just shrug my shoulders and say 'nothing I say or do will change his current narrative, protect yourself, Sage'. It is hard to have this used against me, with how loving and honest the intention was (and FFS, what was he doing snooping in my journals anyway?!?!).
Help me here!
It is very difficult when things, especially in unchanging written form, are used out of context and against you. (((Sage)))
You know the second choice is the best one. Detach. Nothing you say or do will change his mind; only he can change his mind and his current narrative.
His path is about him. He is in crisis and unable to handle his own emotions, never mind anyone else’s. Case in point, the wee bit of gently shared concern for birthday child was too much for him, and he came out blaming and fighting. Highlights the irrational path he is on.
Detach and continue to move forward. Indifference is most helpful.
You got this.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
