Journey of me and H Part 1

[DnJ]

Good Morning PLC

I didn’t see your post that was two minutes before mine, until this morning.

Yes, remain dark unless there is an emergency. In three years, there has never been anything I needed to reach out to tell XW.

If he was leaving for good, he left A LOT of stuff I know he values. So this is just a vacation.

Expectations.

You’d be surprised at what a person in crisis deems valuable and deems worthless.

If he was leaving for good, he left A LOT of stuff I know he values. So this is just a vacation.

Maybe that’s better. What do think?

So, is there any negative to me not asking when he will be home and if not, any behavior I should exhibit when [he] does come back?

First off, remember MLC will run its course, it has too.

I think your idea of are there any negatives from not asking is coming from a place where you feel you can alter his course somewhat.

Treat him like a roommate. He left without telling you anything. If he wanted you to know, he should have told you, or would have told you.

If his time away is for a long period, his contributions to the household bills and joint expenses may get into the arrears. If/when that is starting to happen then text him stating he need to deposit $x for bills. Other than that, stay silent. And GAL. I do believe your finically situation is rather stable and H’s money is directly deposited so this is most likely a nonissue for a while.

If there is, what should I NOT do? I can be very sarcastic at times and my instinct upon return is to make some snarky comment. So this is why I need to know how to approach.

Lol. Sarcasm is not a good idea. That may feel good for a bit, and will end in regret.

If he does not contact me, I wonder how it will be when he does come home. I wonder if he expects me to say something? 180 would be that I don't.

Do that 180. Say little. And definitely no snarky comments. Kind and cordial. This may be a bit of an act, at first. The real thing you are after is you were doing stuff, GAL, living, and not missing and sitting around for him. His return should be little more than - Oh, Hi H.

He is in a mixed up and confused place right now. Desperately seeking relief from unrelenting feeling and emotions. Hopefully he realizes, no matter how far and fast you run - there you are. He cannot escape himself.

The heart of standing and healing: Removing your focus from your spouse as they do what they are driven to do. While living your life, fully, happily, and honourably.

Enjoy your plans for today. Spend time with D25.

Focus on you.

D