Standing is a difficult road to walk; not for the faint of heart.
We take our focus off our spouse and let go. They need to, and will anyhow, running in whatever direction they feel is right. The standing LBS is walking a path to outlast the MLC, not fix it.
H is currently doing his thing, whatever that may be. He didn’t tell you, so no pressure and let it be. You don’t want to be a “cause” for him to incorrectly blame. Remember he is looking for “reasons” to justify his mixed up narrative. “It just can’t be me” is still playing within his head.
It’s ok not to contact him, he is the one who left without any word after all.
Your feelings are most understandable. Do keep your expectations to zero, H is irrational and his empathy chip is broken.
Hang in there. (((Hugs)))
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
