Originally Posted by may22
Think about it like this.. you kiss her on the forehead. She doesn't feel what she thinks she is supposed to feel when her W does that (love, affection, etc). Instead, she probably feels guilty and bad for not feeling what she's supposed to feel, and then that sparks an R talk where she states to you she doesn't think she can ever feel the way you want her to feel. Those probably aren't thoughts you want going through her mind at this point. Also, every time she says out loud she doesn't love you like that it reinforces it for her. (Believe me, this is something I have learned the hard way.)

So--- be sure that you aren't doing anything that applies pressure and pushes her further away. No kissing, no hugging, no affectionate touches. No saying ILY. Be cool and detached. Give her space and use the space you've gained to GAL.


May, this was a sobering reality check. I never considered it this way. It was 6:30 in the morning, I automatically leaned down and kissed her. At no point did I stop to think how it would make her feel. I considered she was upset because I kissed her and just walked away with no conversation. Your scenario is totally plausible and probably correct.

Thank you for this. I am trying.