Mar, your response on the phone text was perfect. Good job on that one. Sometimes not speaking is the best course of action.
It sounds like you are settled on returning to your home country, and I am glad you have a plan. I think you having a plan is good for you.
I too questioned whether my XW was having a MLC. I read all about it, and at the time it did help me a bit because I found people who felt the same things I felt, and experienced the same process of separation. But just remember - whether or not she is having a MLC doesn't change much. It's just a bit of back story as to some possible "whys", but it doesn't change her mind or actions. So don't it impact any of your decisions - you should move forward in the healthiest way you can identify. I think you are trying to do that.
