Thanks LH19. Ok, so as I go along here with limited contact (keeping it to just the kids) when will I know when the W has a change of heart and starts pursuing me. Or wants to start working on the marriage? What kinds of actions or feelings might I observe. I really want to talk to her about the R but I know that will push her away even more. How do you know when to talk about the R. Do you wait for months on end? Do you wait for her to bring it up? What happens if she never brings it up?