As a fellow lesbian, I read through all of your posts in an effort to find common ground from someone in a similar sitch. My W as been involved in an EA with a coworker for over a year. She denies a PA and claims that they are just friends. Refused to give up her "friendship". We are now separated in-house, I got the ILYBANILWYA and don't want to be married anymore. I am working on detachment and trying to figure out what my next step should be. Leaning towards leaving next month.
As someone that is a bit older (50) and 21 years into my R, my best piece of advise is to make a solid decision based on your needs and wants. Is she loving you the way you want to be loved? Is she fulfilling your needs? Are you happy? If the answer is no to any of these questions then step away. I know it is easier said then done. I am still here as well. But the last thing in the world you want is to wake up 10 years from now and find yourself in the same sitch still hoping that it will improve. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months and months turn into years.
