You contribute a lot to this forum, with a lot of good advice.. I really cant believe that you don't see how messed up your situation is - I cant imagine you would encourage a newbe to go through this drama..
Originally Posted by KitCat
I think this is incredibly common ---- when you have NO emotional connection to a situation giving advice and providing support and deep down knowing what the right thing to do is IS ALWAYS easier.
When its matters to you personally your brain gets so wrapped up in what was, the small issues, the future possibilities, the exhaustion of walking away and feeling like it could be different ---- this is the exact reason that medical professionals should not be the primary person involved in emergency/chronic care of loved ones. The reason that law enforcement are not allowed to be involved in cases with strong personal ties. Its so much harder to think completely logically when there are such strong emotional attachments.
Deep down you know all the right answers and what you would advise someone else but its hard for your logical brain to over rule your emotional brain. Hence why many of us make mistakes when we know better.
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