Ok so if your W is a WW which about 1% are then making yourself available occasionally is ok. But you jumped at the first chance. I often compare the LBS dog to the dog sitting at the dining room table looking for table scraps. You want to turn this around then became mysterious.
As for your changes, it takes many years for a middle age person to make changes. Right now the changes are to get her back and she knows it. The good news is if she is really waiting to see changes in you then you will know it. If she's not which most WW aren't then it won't matter what you do. That's why it's important for the changes to be for you.
