Thanks for the reply Tom_H

Yeah I don't really know how much she is working on herself. I doubt any at all but that is just speculation and 'm not going to ask her.

Regarding the text, yes I told her I was committed to changing and to the relationship and I had no interest in dating.

I really like the journaling idea you came up with. Plus I think the kids would appreciate to. I'm going to put it on my to do list