Thanks Tom_H. Appreciate the reply. Alot of good point you bring to the table. A few things, prior to the separation we agreed that there would be no dating, just focusing on ourselves. I don't have any reason to believe that she would do otherwise and I am certainly not planning on dating or seeing anyone. With that said, the emotional part of my brain becomes paranoid and worries "What if she happens to meet someone". She sent me a weird text earlier on the separation that read:
"And I'm assuming if one day you decide you don't want to wait anymore and want to see someone you would tell me first, I had a dream last night you were dating and I was mad lol"
This was a really weird text, I spoke to friends about it and they thought it was just her doing a temp check. I phoned her the next day to ask about the text. (This was before I discovered DB) I reassured her that I was committed working on the relationship and she reassured me as well. What do you think this text meant?
As far as the AA, my sich is a little different as I am a mental health nurse and I would more than likely bump into a patient that I know. I do weekly IC and we talk about the alcohol issue every session. I do value your opinion though. And thanks for taking the time to post. Really appreciate it
