Midlife wife crisis 15

[Rose888]

Why is her father part of this conversation? How young is she? Does she come from a culture where parents have a lot of say in their adult child's life?

I think it's understandable that she is looking for security, and I can see her point about a child being a better reason to stay together than marriage. It's not the only way to look at it, but I don't think she's crazy for thinking that. The teenage example doesn't apply, unless you are claiming that you and your GF have the mental and emotional maturity of teenagers.

That said, I don't think you should feel forced to marry her. And I don't think you should tell her father you are going to get engaged in the future.

But I do think (assuming paternity is proven), that you should work out a legally binding support arrangement. I don't think she should have to rely on your word alone that you are going to provide for your child. If you're expecting her to just take your word for it, then I can see why she's pushing for marriage.