Thanks Mumin. Appreciate the response. Yes, I feel like being consistent and changing myself for real is what I need to do. Yes, support with the alcohol problem is needed. I speak to C every week. The problem with AA is I am a mental health nurse and I am worried that I may bump into someone I know during a meeting.
Work is ok. I am going back to work tomorrow as I was off with an injury sustained by one of the patients. I job is high stress and probably contributed to the drinking.

I agree with you to take the year and DB. I am just worried that we will grow apart during that time. I am also worried that she proposed a year because that's when she could officially ask for a D (according to our province rules)

It's been a real rollercoaster around here. This is the hardest thing I have ever been confronted with