[peacetoday]

As far as doing things together at his request

It is up to you

In my situation, I wanted to keep things calm
When XH visited, I was kind and cordial as best as possible
he rarely wanted to go anywhere with me...just the kids
but he wanted to talk and hang out- I let him
Just to see...what would happen-
I wanted the M, I played it out till the end when he Married OW- then that was it
It gave me time
much needed time

To do therapy
to heal
to get a handle on my pain and the new situation
single mother
working mom
To work on Gal and letting go

So if it buys you time to figure it out
If it gives the kids a chance to bond with him...

There will come a time...
when we know
Trust that
We watch the MLC behavior to see if he turns back-
it takes time, usually a few years at least and sometimes more depending on each individual situation


You sound strong
You have limits
You are standing for you are also creating a new life with your kids
You are healing'
Therapy is important now
grieve the M
it is over

If you are friendly, and it works as a friendship
a new R can develop
even if its just for co-parenting


The other thing is to consider is is he cake eating
enjoying family time...best of both worlds
while he goes and plays in his new MLC life- without family ties

It is a delicate line we walk as LBS

No decisions need to be made today

I trust you will find your best path




hold on to that for now and let him do

If you dont want to spend time as a family...You can say No...maybe another day
You may be busy