Welcome aboard this crazy train. Sorry you have to go through this process. I am a better person having gone through it. I believe everything is an opportunity for personal growth. Grab this opportunity by the horns and focus all your energy on you. We can't control other people, but we can control (and change) how we interact and respond to them.
Boundaries are to protect you. Boundaries are to protect the relationship. Multiple boundaries have been crossed by your W. It is your job to enforce your boundary to protect yourself. This is done through actions, not words. To many people focus on trying to state their boundaries. Actions speak louder than words.
"This is not working for me" should be your guiding thought. She needs to jump through hoops to get you back. She needs to FEEL the fear of loosing you. With OW involved, that feeling might not come. Missing you might be the feeling that draws her back to you. Again, we can't control other people.
In any case, get your mojo back. Reinvent yourself. You deserve better than this. All is fair in love and war and if you want to attract W back, learning new skills in seduction will help.
Anyway, I hope you get the support you need here and I will follow your thread. Work has picked up for me so I am not here as much as I would like, but will post when I can.
R2C
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
