Sorry you find yourself in this all to familiar sitch. Glad you found these forums.
Read as much as you can. The things that work are counter-intuitive. The more crazy the idea sounds to you, the more you really should challenge your belief system.
Ultimately, your W has lost her attraction for you. Do your homework and understand what traits a woman is really attracted to (most guys do not have a clue). Also do your research on what turns a woman off. Start adding attractive traits to your behavior and your interactions with women, and drop the negative traits. Do not do this as an attempt to manipulate your W to come back, but rather as personal growth experience for yourself.
You will read all kinds of advise. Lots of it will be conflicting. The best thing you can do is read as much as you can so you are armed with as many choices as possible. Then you evaluate all the options and pick the ones that you believe will help in your sitch.
I wish you well and get ready for the marathon. Going through the process is not fun, but if you take this opportunity to make personal growth changes, you will be thankful for the process.
R2C
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
