Need advice on stubborn W

[BL42]

I still have a lot of fear in me that I'm still trying to get rid of. Mostly it's around the fact that my kids won't have a complete family with her out of the picture.

Yes, I'm lamenting that loss for them (and me as well). Unfortunately we don't have any control of it.

Laws over here in my country are favoring women. I'm financially stable but my wife isn't as her MLC-type spending habits are quite out of control. If we do the D route I supposed I will be liable to pay quite some alimony. And custody-wise, it's usually favoring the women as well.

I'm thinking of starting to engage a L to discuss my options.

Yes, you absolutely should do that ASAP. There is no downside - why not at least find out where you stand legally in case the worst happens.