I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Your post felt like a warm embrace definitely coming from the heart. I am trying to get my emotions in check and see this entire sitch from a more logical perspective. I don’t think my wife knows what she wants. One minute she is telling me she wants a S/D and the next she is taking her IC advice and not wanting to rush into any decision. This week she has made an effort to make conversation in the evenings but very emotionally detached and distant. I personally think she is wrestling with her core belief against D and her relationship with the OW.
I have made it clear that I will not share her in any sense of the word and it is all or nothing as far as our MR goes. She continues to claim that OW is just a friend and she will not end the friendship. This is where we are at an impasse.
Trying to figure out how to give her space so that she can make a decision one way or the other but she cannot continue to be in this M and eat her cake too. All of your advice sounds spot on.
Our D is 24 still living at home but just starting her professional career. Just earned her Masters and beginning her full time job. So we were just on the cusp of being empty nesters.
I really need to GAL as per the advice on here. I know you mentioned you are not around much but I would really appreciate a continued dialogue with you. I just began reading your story today.
