Unfortunately, I think that KML is right (she has a lot of experience on these boards and has seen a lot of situations like ours). It is likely that W has an OM in her life.
I am not too much ahead of you in my situation. A few months ago, I asked the vets on this forum what they wished they had done differently and one vet named LH19 who had a lot of experience and was years on the other side of his situation replied with this:
Originally Posted by LH19
In my situation I wished I would have said 'you want a divorce? Do you need help packaging your bags?' Then went out and started my new awesome life.
Wait until you're a couple years out. You will look back and cringe at the BS you put up with him.
I wished I had heeded LH's advice sooner. Letting go (dropping the rope, as they say here) is one of the hardest things you can do, but probably also one of the most valuable in the process of recovering yourself OR your marriage.
Although you believe your W may be in the midst of an MLC (I am not experienced enough to help you with that diagnosis), you might find additional support on the Newcomer's Forum, so post there too if you want. There tends to be more activity there and you will also read a lot of stories like your own.
