Indeed. "The script" is real. It's incredible how similar so many of these stories are.
Originally Posted by Mar252
I think my W will ultimately choose to end our M. I know she is conflicted because she fundamentally does not believe in D. I think that is the only reason our S hasn’t happened yet. Not because she wants to stay in this marriage but because the idea of D is contrary to her core values. She is totally distant and disconnected.
Could be, but maybe not. I think my W will go through with the divorce as well, but neither of us know for certain what will happen.
Originally Posted by Mar252
I really did all the wrong things, pushing, begging, pleading, pressuring. I know I ultimately pushed her further away.
Don't blame yourself for doing those things! You did them out of a desire to save your marriage with the best of intentions. All you can do now is use the knowledge and insight you've gained here and other places to make the best decisions going forward.
Last edited by BL42; 09/29/2004:22 PM.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21