Hi Core. Thank you for the response. Yes, I feel like our therapist helped put the last nail into our coffin. We had been in MC for over a year when I brought them definitive proof of the affair. My wife was adamant that it wasn’t physical. She only admitted to acting inappropriately, getting caught up emotionally and going a bit too far. She never defined was a “ bit too far” entailed. The T allowed her to leave it at that. No discussion about all the lies to me at home or during therapy, no discussion of the impact on our relationship, it was all about me accepting that my W made a mistake and forgiving. It also included accepting the fact that my W insisted on remaining friends with the OW.
When I refused to do a any of these things without an honest accounting of my W actions the T started focusing on me being depressed and unable to move on. It seemed that every sessions afterwards was centered on me getting beyond my depression and suggesting I go on medication. I finally gave up and quit therapy.
Since then my W and I have drifted further apart. She brought up S and possible D this weekend. I am a mess. Can’t sleep. It is almost 4:00 AM and I am wide awake lying on the couch at the moment. I developed an ulcer sometime last year right in the middle of all of this and it has been acting up the past few days. Started taking my medication again 2 days ago. I thought it was healed.
