I think the temptation you are going to have right now is to set a deal breaker boundary.. because of the pain you are experiencing. A "Either she's out or I'm out" mentality. I want to caution you and advise against this unless you are 100% okay with the possibility of losing your marriage. Because there is a good chance your w won't come back and you will have to be okay with that
You are absolutely on point. This is exactly the sentiment I am grappling with. I can’t fathom losing my wife but I also can’t continue living like this. I definitely feel like I am at a crossroad.
You are correct, the marriage did not breakdown on its own. Prior to the A we were in MC addressing our issues. I thought we were making significant progress then I get blindsided with the A.
My immediate 180 - Stop the R talks. Stop reaching out to her looking for her attention and affection. Dressing up to make myself feel more attractive (been working from home for months and no need to wear anything but sweats). GAL - I have been taking more drives over the past month just to get away. Start going back to the gym.
