I was reading your sitch and I had the creeps because we are almost living the same nightmare but in different places and with different people. We have such similarities that like you, I have a vested interest in following you. Not the best place to make new friends but well, we have each other now (and other awesome folks here too)!
I'll keep cheering you on and hope you can do the same for me too!
Now, some journaling to channel the frustrations away...
Last weekend the W stayed over at her friend's house (didn't ask who/where even though i was dying to know). She didn't contact me or the kids for that past few days; a first 30 mins i was getting anxiety attack but on the 31st minute till she returned I was kicking ass enjoying my time with the kids and doing things for myself! Now I fully understand that we can be happy by ourselves and you definitely can't beat that feeling!
Some changes in the W when she got back. She's not offering to pick the kids back home nowadays sporadically (99% of the time i was the one sending and fetching them so it's nice for a change), she brought the kids out to the park for walks (1st time since 4 months ago), she taking on more chores that's related to the kids (packing their school bags, washing their bottles, face masks, etc). Wonder how long she can keep it up? I'm trying to take a step back because my therapist advised my W during our one and only counselling session (she attended it once and then called it quits; saying it's not working at all but I'm still going as IC) that she's ought to spend more time with the kids.
My buddy's wedding coming up this week and he's invited us to a drinking session post that, I asked my W if she's keen to go and she said yes without a heartbeat. Felt nice for a change.
BUT......
Never trust what she says and believe half of what she does. I'm etching that into my brain.
Seems like calm before the storm, no?
M(36), W(36), D(6), D(4) M-7, T-8 Bomb Drop - Nov 28, 2019 W requested separation - Sep 30, 2020
