The first thing you need to do is not give a $hit about what she does or says. You seem overly concerned about "bursting her bubble", That shouldn't be your goal. Your goal is to focus on you and your kids. Live the best life possible for you and your kids. She shouldn't even be a thought. That's how you burst the bubble. It won't happen until you're completely detached and don't care whether her bubble bursts or not. Seeing you being happy and successful without her is going to drive her nuts...
Hi mtb1981,
Thank you. I do give a [censored] that's the problem and although I've accepted her moving on without my it's easier said than done to ignore it and ignore the damage done to my children.
Steve85, Thank you for your words of advice.
Sorry if I don't always reply immediately, I have so much going on.
Update...
We decided to do mediation. It's confidential but what I will say is that the attorney asked us when our date of separation was. WW said Sep 30, 2019. The other attorney said, "but you're still living together and for the purposes of the court, you are not separated."
Let me emphasis that again: "for the purposes of the court, you are not separated."
WW insisted that she never cheated on me, because in her mind she separated before she had an extra marital affair. Then when I busted that up she found someone else in Jan this year and decided to move in with him and take my kids too though she hasn't left yet.
She's a grown ass woman and I can't stop her. Fortunately, it looks like I will be getting the kids 4 days out of every 7 as she won't be living in the school district.
We did the mediation over zoom, you should have seen the look on her face when the mediator said "you're not separated."
It means exactly what I've been telling her, that she's a married woman who lives with her husband and children, who had a one night stand and is brazenly having an affair in front of my kids.
