It's come to my attention there is good reason to believe W is onto OM2. It's amazing how other sitches and experience people on this forum can predict what will happen. I did not seek this information out. I've not been snooping and have done fairly week over the last two months of detaching (no drive-bys, digging up info on social media...etc.). But as I was relaying information to my FIL and SMIL about the child care schedule and situation with W's grandma, they hesitantly brought up the topic and asked if I thought affair with OM1 was still on-going. I didn't know but thought probably. They said they're not so sure because a few interactions and things they've noticed would indicate she's now hooking up with the brother of her good friend.
Anyway, this news did hit me a little bit though more from the perspective of "great, my kids are around this guy" so I broke down a little and snooped on social media. He's 38 and single with a mediocre job and I believe living with his mom. He's a bit of a gym rat (protein shakes, gym two times a day)/motorcycle & truck/no relationships kind of guy, and posts check-ins at strip clubs and trashy things on Facebook. Very different than me (as was OM1).
I didn't sleep very well this weekend. I'm concerned about my W and him hanging out with the kids, but don't think there's anything I can do about it. It upsets me to think I'll have no input into my children's "other" father figure(s) for the next 20 years.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
