WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Don't Want Divorce (2)

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Unfortunately there were some "down" moments this week...

In my previous thread I mentioned some back and forth texts with the W when she texted me the night before telling (not asking) me there would be a change to our agreed upon schedule. I pushed back a bit but she held her ground but I couldn't do anything about it really, so I let it go after a few texts and stopped engaging.

The next day was my dinner evening with the kids on my "OFF" week. W texts me to say she can drop off D2 or I can pick her up, let her know, so after W and my IC appt I text W to say I'm on my way to pick her up and drove over to her house to pick up D2 from D2's great grandmother (84yo) as I've done before. It was completely cordial, and I explained in case W told her there was a disagreement it had nothing to do with her, that I have no issue with her and just objected to the last minute/unilateral change. I left thinking everything was fine. My mom also had a phone call with great grandma essentially saying the same thing. I did not touch or so much as raise my voice, and we had a civil conversation. There we no indications of any problem.

48 hours later I'm out for dinner and drinks with friends and receive 5 calls on my phone from a number I don't recognize, so assume it's spam, but eventually a voicemail pops up. It's a 2 minute message from W's great grandmother about "how could I do such a thing", "you sacred me half to death and I could've had a stroke or a heart attack", and "I didn't call the police but I should've"...etc, etc. Now this is a woman who loved and thought very highly of me and my family - I'd walk her arm in arm down stairs and to her car even the one time I saw her during sitch.

I also received a follow up email from my wife about how I'm not supposed to come over unannounced and uninvited (it wasn't either - it was my night and my W & I had texted about picking up D2.

I've saved the voicemail and written up what happened and sent to L to make sure I'm covered as much as I can legally, and informed my family of the situation and asked them not to reach out to W, W's mom, or W's grandmother, but I'm concerned this may escalate into something bad.