Need advice on stubborn W

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AKuei,

She was evasive, said he was an old friend from school (true), and that she didn't chat with him much or often (lie).

My W had her AP's name in her phone with his job title as if to remember who it was (like someone you met at the bar the night before) and after continually denying and affair when I finally confronted her with the name she said he's been a good friend for 10 years. I knew her 9 of those and never heard about him once. It was complete BS.

When I installed the spyware the first conversation I captured was her telling OM about me asking about him. And she suggested that some evening, when I was around, that they could IM innocently to show me that there was no concern. The very next night is when I found a lengthy email where he spent 60% of the time trying to convince her to meet him so they could do what they had so often IM'd about sexually.

My W and OM had multiple drawn out discussions about how not to get caught and whether or not I would expose them. They would plan for her to invite my parents over for a Sunday family dinner so to act as if nothing was going on and keep suspicions down and keep the peace (she didn't have any idea how much I knew), unfortunately I was still trying to nice her back at the time so I played along. Now she won't even say hello to my mom, who has been NOTHING but welcoming and generous and loving to her for 9 years.

BELIEVE NOTHING SHE SAYS OR SHOWS YOU. She is an lying cheater. Never trust a lying cheater.

^^^THIS!!! They're liars!!! It's hard because you remember them when they weren't wayward and see signs of something and think "no, she couldn't do that" or "no, she wouldn't lie about that"...they ARE!!! Listen to Steve85.