Finding calm during the storm

[DnJ]

Good Morning Kind

Gerda has passed on some hard earn wisdom right there.

I didn’t, not for even one minute, have to live with a MLCer. My situation went straight to W moving out and pretty much no contact. Talk about being thrown in the deep end. Sink or swim, I suppose. And for a good while I was drowning.

“I do not want to divorce and I do not intend to move on to someone else, but I can't live this way, and need legal separation of all our finances and daily life. If you change your mind about what you want, the door is open. But until that time, I need to be able to run my own life alone." And then total no contact until running is over.

That is basically where I found myself while still dazed and wondering what the heck happened. Three years later, yes this is a good place to be.

None of us chose how our situations started. We do choose how we progress. Being compassionate amidst all this. Removing the focus from one’s spouse and placing it upon themselves. Ensuring the business side is taken care of while standing for you. And many more, at times hard to hear, choices.

Be patient where you can and protect where you need to.

D