Groceries and such can become a problem bill when H isn’t there or is eating take out most of the time.
Charge him half of the latest bill, as you said you would, and then only purchase for yourself. You’ve already stated the boundary, just got to stick to it.
If H refuses to pay, oh well, you cannot control him. Your boundary is for the future shopping expeditions. And him refusing this time would be excellent reasoning for why you and he are shopping separately. For when he back-pedals and conveniently forgets this arrangement.
I am guessing the bills to run the household he is still contributing to; he does stay sometimes and does laundry after all.
The security app is a bit more troublesome. It sounds like you’ve asked before and H has refused and adds you as a secondary user, eventually. Being as this happens when the battery dies or they update the app implies this app is governed by another party, perhaps the security company. If I am reading this right.
Asking H again will most likely result is more of the same. If you haven’t asked H, go down that road first.
Assuming you have, think what you would have had to do if you had become widowed. Call the company. Reset the equipment within your home, and then initialize with a new app and password - your’s. There is probably a monthly security fee as well. Depending on whose name it is under might make this a whole lot easier.
Same for the internet router and other electronics. They have physical reset buttons, and then you re-initialize. You may want to look up how to guides before H were to do something immature like change the login password on the wi-fi. Not saying that would happen, however you would be more secure knowing you can fix it, and quickly.
Basically, when roommate H is behaving like an @ss, let him be and go around him.
The advice is usually if things are going smoothly and you can live with how bills and stuff is happening, then go with it. However, once that doesn’t work for you anymore; financial security and protection; get things altered. It’s your place too. Get your name on the app, bills, etc, and ensure H is, and will be, paying his fair share.
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