So H is still living in D25's bedroom. As far as I can tell, he and OW2 are still together.
He still leaves at different times and does not tell anyone where he is going or when he may return at least 80% of the time.
This is where the journaling is regarding something different:
I looked back at our marriage and we did not have any screaming arguments. We still have not had any. During our marriage, H would have a surge of anger but he would explode and that would be it. I would avoid.
It seems that that is the pace for this MLC. No conflict. He is just coasting in and out.
I have had in the last week or so, glimpses of the old H; willing to get gas, get the car washed, cleaning up the room he's in. I also, after the second BD in July, stopped doing any laundry of his and the hamper was packed to the top with his stuff. He would wash what he needed and keep the hamper full of other items he wasn't wearing. Today, he began doing laundry from the hamper. This past weekend, i mentioned a few posts prior, he emptied all of the clutter out of the bedroom and made it more livable.
Sometimes I wonder, what if he is doing this because he has a plan to leave and realizes he needs to make less of a mess? Like, " I am leaving her let's not leave more of a mess." Then to counterpoint, I wonder if he is cleaning up because he wants to clean things up for me to eventually return, yet I know OW is around.
I know that I need to focus on me, and I am usually good at that, but sometimes I wonder if he has an inkling about anything about this sitch. He will speak with me, ask follow up questions next time we cross paths.
