Thanks everyone, your posts have been really encouraging.
Gerda - I've read through most of your old threads. There's a noticeable strength and, more importantly, humour in your current posts. You've really come back to life despite still being in the middle of a horrible situation. You should be proud of how far you've come.
Unchien - I am actually not certain that X has a lawyer. He didn't have one for the property settlement. When my L asked for his L's details, he refused to provide anything. His last response came back within two hours so I doubt it's being run through a lawyer. Doesn't mean he hasn't had legal advice, but I'm more thinking these statements are being fed by his family.
May - you're right about X never showing interest in being a parent. I posted before about a rare time when I went out for the night and came home to a sick infant screaming in his cot while X lay in bed with a pillow over his head to block the noise. So I'm not taking S2's safety and wellbeing lightly. If that gets me the label of helicopter parent, so be it.
kml - I've stopped dating for now. Not because I'm not ready, but I'd rather devote that time to myself. Being single is actually so wonderful. The thought of living with a man ever again is... not appealing! I'm getting a lot of tips from Female Dating Strategy about living my best life despite the moratorium on dating right now.
Soooo I've sent off a response to X just now. My palms are a bit sweaty imagining the kind of response I'll get in return. But I shall persevere and deal with it when it comes.
Sage's wording ended up being really helpful. I just said "Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'll be sure to keep an eye out for any signs of helicopter parenting." Then went into the negotiations.
Is a journal or calendar sufficient for documentation? What about Divorce Busting threads? LOL.
