Kind and cordial is not an act. And neither is compassionate.
My mantra for the day. Thank you D!
Originally Posted by Kindly
I like this as a mantra too, however it’s feeling fake to me (me being kind and cordial) I feel like kind, cordial and compassion are deeply buried and have no opportunity to shine as H continues to treat me like a ghost. It’s there because I’m not holding onto hate...but then I realized maybe it’s not for H ....it’s for me right now.
I can show endless amounts of compassion toward or for someone else, but not myself. I’m as kind as I can be always towards others, but not myself.
It’s ok if kind and cordial “feels” fake. Feelings change.
It is not an act. You do demonstrate and live kindness and compassion, albeit mostly towards others. Perfectly normal, as we do tend to be our own harshest critic.
Your feelings for H are entering indifference, and therefore will seem and feel fake. Indifference is a strange landscape with other feelings appearing larger than they actually are when held against the void of feelings towards H. This is temporary, your feelings will and do return. Embrace this indifference and discover your values and beliefs without all the noise and distraction of H.
Find your beliefs. Strengthen and craft those you like, and alter or discard those you don’t.
And yes, our ‘self’ is always listening. Speak well the dialog you are telling yourself. It is not an act!
Be kind and compassionate towards yourself, she’s a pretty awesome gal who has been through a lot. Believe it.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
