Kindly, I have to say that you sound so solid right now. I know that the moments when we write on this board and feel the love and support that comes from everyone's kind words, that we might project a stronger version of ourselves than we feel inside, but I just wanted to point out how quickly you went from this:
Originally Posted by Kindly
I agree dejavu - his behaviour became darker and more distant. And then came “the parking of his toothbrush elsewhere“!!! Lol. Not funny but if you don’t laugh ....over the last two weeks or so he’s flown in for minutes to be gone again. I don’t even know what he’s coming back for right now. I have not entered his close door room in months so for all I know it’s completely cleared out.
Bringing the focus back to me. It’s been 2 weeks since Hs L threatened court and radio silence again. One week since I didn’t respond to Hs email about his agent and selling the house again ...radio silence, not a word spoken between us in prob a month. And then the missing toothbrush. Do I want to know where he is? Would that settle my mind or flare it up worse? Recon mission or continue to ignore...?
...a very triggering situation that likely brings you a lot of pain and suffering. Which I may have been guilty of spending waay more time than you did ruminating over; you immediately jump into this:
Originally Posted by Kindly
I am focusing on all my hobbies, getting out for hikes, doing very well at work and added extreme home maintenance to my list, learning to care for bigger things that I’ve never had to do before.
You are doing a great job of self-soothing! Which is a great step to compassion for self. That for every negative interaction (H ghosting you, the threatening L), you immediately thought of the positive ones that you are executing in your life. For YOURSELF. Yes, queen. This is the path to liberation. You are further along than you think.
I am grateful for your kind words of solidarity on my thread. I see you, sister.
