Hi Sage, thank you Sooo much for the boss analogy...it has been a huge help in reframing my mindset for how I want and deserve to be treated.
I’ve been quietly reading along as many of our posts are intermingled and the advice given to one often helps many.
(As you said...) Seeing H in physical form when he’s not himself mentally or emotionally has been very tough on me this week too. I try to follow Dnj’s advice of allowing feelings to wash over me, but it’s the never ending questions and analysis of the situation that is allowing the feelings to flare up every so often. Do you find yourself trying to “make sense of it” still, find some kind of answers?
Originally Posted by Sage4
I wondered after I heard that comment H made 'has he always been like this? Or even worse, is this the real him and I encouraged a more evolved version of him over the course of our M, one that was not authentic to him?'
This too. This is a reoccurring thought for me, but I talk myself down by thinking it and then letting it go as best I can. Even IF this was true ...what is there to do about it now? I guess if we exhibited controlling behaviour we could learn from that. But wow, that makes me think what kind of power, and mind control we must contain to be able to influence, change and control someone’s authentic self! ....is it even possible???
