Hi Kindly. Just want to lend you my support and reassure you that is DOES get better with time. I am now two years post BD and if you had told me then that I would be living the life I am living now, I would have said you were crazy. I remember all too well those sleepless nights...the worries and feelings of abandonment. Like others have said, allow yourself those feelings...just try not to ruminate on them. Having others to talk to is very helpful. I found that as soon as I started talking with people about my situation, I started to hear a lot of stories and experiences of others that helped me to feel not so alone. I remember forcing myself to go to a staff Christmas party about four months post BD and it was the best thing I could have done. Not only did I have a good time, but I also sat next to someone whose H had left her a few weeks before with no warning. I think our conversation was comforting to both of us.
Re: your H having somewhere else to go. More than likely it is also someone else. I hate to say it but from what I have observed by being on this site is that men rarely leave their marriages unless they have a replacement. That was certainly the case in my sitch although my XH swore on our children’s lives that it wasn’t. I believed him for awhile because of that. Then I realized that some people think nothing of making statements like that if they think it will help them get away with their lies. I eventually learned to pay more attention to what he did as opposed to what he said and that made moving on a whole lot easier. (((HUGS)))
