I’m following along and wanted to say how much reading your posts, your questions and the advice offered here is helping me.
I think I was just about to enter a space where I was going to have to start coming up with some boundaries, but then as you know he’s made a large change in his behaviour and isn’t really here in anymore. All the same, prob best to prepare some scenarios so I’m not caught off guard when / if he comes back. I will def reread Dnjs posts...
As for buying joint items, I don’t have an answer but I can tell you want just happened in my sitch. We’ve been going along just fine splitting the bills and the grocery bill...until last week when I did a large shop and got spewed at for “why would you do that I’m not here to use any of that and I’m not sharing the bill anymore?” (Of course in hindsight he was preparing to “not be here”.)
So I replied “great, I can’t read minds so going forward we can certainly shop for ourselves.” Of course, up until he started leaving he was most certainly using and eating things I bought. I think going forward I will just buy for me. But you do bring up a very good point about certain staples being “magically restocked”.....
They change their behaviour so fast ...it’s unreal to think about what must be going through their heads.
Just wanted to point out how well you’re doing with the new job, separate bank account and mental fortitude.
