So wooba, would you say he's a good person? Assuming being good or bad is binary?
Ha. That's a hard one to answer. We all have our angels and demons. I don't think I would say my H right now is a good person. If I have to choose an adj I would choose.....egocentric.
I have started to structure my good/bad person mentality like this.
"This person is acting outside his/her circle of integrity". This allows me to not pass judgement on them BUT also set the boundaries I need to stay emotionally safe. It doesn't matter if this is a temporary acting outside of... or chronic outside of....my actions still remain the same. If that person steps back into their circle, I can make adjustments from there.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
