Midlife wife crisis14

[Wolfman]

. "You gave up on mom and family months before you were D'd!"

Thank you steve
Steve you were right about not dating should have waited. But this statement ^ I did t give up for 7-8 months. I tried to show her I changed, I tried talking to her about how we could repair the marriage. The kids saw me trying. So what was I suppose to do? She was full steam ahead. So that would be upsetting if they feel like I gave up. 1. I didn’t want divorce
2. I tried like I said for a while.
As far as parent alienation. I have text messages between my daughter and ex, where the ex is calling me a loser, don’t talk to him, don’t worry you don’t have to spend a lot of time with him, be careful what you say to dad he will try and take you away from your mom. Telling her to hide things from me like her phone, terrible how I don’t spend every second with them when I am cooking. And it goes on from there. I would think that is pretty bad.

Hey Wolfster! Good to see you back but sorry to hear things aren't going better!


If your D hates your GF then there may be something to that. One huge issue when dating with kids is the person you are dating can be a master of pretending to be a great mom in front of you while being something completely different when you're not around. My suggestion there would be to talk to your D and ask her why she feels that way, and when you do talk to her take her seriously and listen and validate. She may throw some stuff out that you feel is unfair or untrue, but consider it anyway. And like I said, validate everything she says.

AS thanks for the response I appreciate it. This comment ^ it’s hard for me to tell. For the first month after meeting my GF all she would say is, she is too nice. That was her biggest complaint for a while. I am working on listening to any complaints and validating. One of her biggest now is, I love my GF more than her. I try and show her so much love, I don’t know what to do. That’s why I go to therapy with her once a week. I am trying so hard!!


[quote=MrBrside]WM,

Look at Josephs thread.. Once WW walked, his focus was Kids kids kids.. In your sitch, i would have cemented a solid foundation with the children before dating, - Become their rock , while WW did her crazy WW stuff - as they had already had a rough time with the seperation..

Hey Mr. B thank you for the insights. That last quote is so good. I have to go by that. I want nothing more than to have my kids “back”. These last 2 years have been so difficult. My GF stood by my side for such garbage, but my kids will always be number 1!! I hate breaking people’s hearts. I feel like it has to be done. I so wanted a family again, and she made me so happy for so long!!! I hate when you guys are right!! Lol