WM,

I'm going to come at this from the other side. And my thoughts echo what Steve has posted above.

The final line he posts is GOLD and how i choose to live my life... Being the best father i can be - my children have a selfish WW mother - so I WILL be the rock in their lives.



From the other side..

WW introduced kids to OM 3 days after she moved out - he spent the night there a few days later..

Consequence of this - my eldest and middle ( 8 and 6 ) hate him... Its nothing i have said - i don't get involved. They are too young to understand the cheating etc, but it doesnt matter to them..

I would never do what she did anyway - but it was a stark reminder - Keep the children away from these things.
I have an amazing relationship with my kids, but also see it from their side now. My eldest ( D8 ) has no respect for her mother - NONE... She is open about wanting to be at my house 6 out of the 7 nights. The mindset of my daughter has nothing to do with anything i have said - we dont speak about WW... Its how i treat her and i am there for her - We talk, we always do things together, we cook together, we wash the car together, we go for walks / bike rides together.. She knows i am reliable and she is my priority - Dont get me wrong... I date, but i keep it away from the children. They are unaware of it.
From the WW perspective... I must be "bribing" or saying things to turn the kids against her.. She cannot / doesnt want to admit that the atitude of the kids is a consequence of her poor decisions or lack of qualoty time she spends with them.

It has nothing to do with me bribing or alinating her - during lockdown in the UK we were stuck at home every day, apart from our 1 hour - but we still did things as a family - where as WW just sticks them in front of the TV or ignores them when OM is there. Kids see this and they will draw their own conclusions.

Look at Josephs thread.. Once WW walked, his focus was Kids kids kids.. In your sitch, i would have cemented a solid foundation with the children before dating, - Become their rock , while WW did her crazy WW stuff - as they had already had a rough time with the seperation..

Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..

Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.