If anyone hasn't read them, I'd strongly recommend I Hear You by Michael Sorenson. About halfway through. Really eye-opening. May need to listen to it a lot to help it sink in.

I applied some knowledge this week at work. We had some difficulty with some part of a project and I involved another manager to give me a bit of help. My boss then wondered why he hadn't been consulted on it and why I'd involved the other manager; basically I should have gone to him straight with a query instead. Normally I'd panic at an email like that, and be fluffing a response to him verbally. But I took a deep breath, and 30 mins later sent a very simple 3 section reply: what I did & why, in 2 sentences; acknowledged that I didn't consider a particular process; then proposed a solution. My boss wrote back "That's ok. I understand. Good that the work is nearly complete. I'm satisfied you've looked into the issue very carefully." All sorted!

I also got highly praised by both my boss and line manager at our weekly team meeting on Monday. Totally unexpected. Massive boost. I thanked them in front of everyone. Yesterday one of my colleagues in our office said, "Have you had a pay review yet? You should - you basically run parts of this company!" and we laughed.

I'm feeling more alpha, but "good" alpha.

Discovered an absolutely amazing band this week - The Midnight. They're 'retrowave' - synthy pop, full-on analog 80s style stuff but they are active now. If you haven't heard them, definitely give them a try!


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020