LH,Im looking for consistencey but my wifes not a bad person, I think assuming everything is manpulation is a stretch.
Sure you could say its pursuit, control, fear. But can you say that phone call was loving to YOU? If so - please tell us things she told you. Again all we know is that she said ILY, IMY, and pipe dreams.
Originally Posted by Indy470
Shes a person too. She's just trying to figure out how to be happy too.
I think this may be true... but it's too soon in your sitch for it to have the meaning you want.
Originally Posted by Indy470
I love her and respect her enough to give her time and space to figure that out without me pursuing her.
Oh man... I'm sorry if I gave that assumption when I said time. What I meant was giving time to you changing the dance. There is no guarantee that if you start taking care of YOU first - that your W will come back. In fact - she could think you were a selfish pr!ck for doing it.
Can you be okay with that? Can you work on being the best dance partner and accept that it may mean losing your current partner?
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