LH, First and foremost I think the decision is unanimous. You give good advice and shouldnt leave the boards. You've helped me alot.
Steve, Thanks for the reminder. Not trying to save my marriage is the best way to save my marriage. That makes sense. I vent on here but outside of that one phone call. I have ignored everything. I've stayed NC and I've told her I was busy every time shes requested to see me.
Brside, I come on here to vent alot about what im feeling, it doesnt mean thats what im doing. Outside of that one phone call I have followed the advice on here pretty much to a T.
I'm GAL. I get your stance on things and I dont think you're coming from a bad place. I've known my wife for a long time and I do agree there were some codependency issues on my end. No argument. Im reading alot on this and working on this. I dont know why but I think alot of it comes down to something LH told me. "rejection breeds obsession" I've never had a problem with women and have had multiple women approach me while being out with friends over the past few months. ( honestly I had zero interest). I agree I need to work on detatching emotionally and mentally. Regardless if my actions line up with the advice my thoughts are still on my W alot. I'm not ready to give up and yes i do want to save my marriage. I get the best way to do that is to stop trying.
