Your H’s bar talk comments reminded me of my XW’s talk, before she went all silent. She told and flaunted her affair before me, the kids, friends, the town. During one of her morning visits, she actually she told me and son that she just had sex with OM 30 minutes ago, so that takes care of the aldutry so we can now get a quick divorce. Sheesh.
These MLCers are entitled teens trying to be all confident, brash, bold, and so smug. Yes, there is a lot of sexual innuendo, or outright depictions of their escapades, they like to throw around. Quite a display of immaturity and insecurity when you really look and think about it.
Still, no one really want that around. Especially with children in the room. Of course, crisis people have broken empathy chips, and cannot see things from other people’s perspectives. They do what they feel; consequences, faith, karma will provide the lessons for them to grow up. It takes time.
It is ok to be angry. You need to walk through this part of the journey for as long as it takes. Anger is healing, it leads to better things.
Originally Posted by Sage4
...I don't want to have to suppress my feelings or walk on eggshells just because he is in my space.
You don’t need to suppress your feelings. They are your’s, it’s ok to feel then. Don’t become consumed by them is all.
You do need to feel the anger to release it. Find a good safe healthy way; punching bag, digging the garden, yard work, running, gym, etc.; something to sweat it out of you.
You don’t want to walk on eggshells, and you don’t want to lash out (well you do feel like you want too ). The suggested path is too let the anger out in a controlled manner. You do control you, after all.
Kind and cordial is not an act. And neither is compassionate. However, they are temporarily emotionally usurped due to feelings of anger. Feelings are fleeting. Anger is temporary. Feel it, let it wash over you. Look to your values and beliefs, for it is here that compassion lives.
Originally Posted by Sage4
I want to heal. But gosh, it is so hard right now.
(((Sage)))
You are healing. This is a very good step towards whole and healed. This is counterintuitive; at times the correct path will feel wrong. Have faith, you are on a good path.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
). The suggested path is too let the anger out in a controlled manner. You do control you, after all.
