I sometimes use humor in my posts to make my point and it doesn't always go over well. I stand by what I said but maybe could have been more tactful. I'm not leaving the board because of you. I have been thinking about it lately and something happened yesterday that solidified it that I will update on my thread at a later date.
As for your question. If you were my son I would tell you to divorce and move on. I have been studying relationships for six years and nothing points to this ending good long term. I talk about this all the time and I don't think it's received well on the board. We all are enthralled will Hollywood movies, fairytales, religion and vows when reality relationships IMO are about value. Value is about respect. Look at the captain of the football in high school. All the girls wanted to date him and the guys wanted to be his friend. Why? Because if you dated him or was his friend your value increased. He was well respected. What your W is doing to you is disrespectful. She's not even trying to hide it from you. That's because she sees you as someone of low value. I'm sorry but that is the reality. So how do you go from low value to high value? You walk away. It's that simple but hard to do due to emotions involved. You walking away and never speaking to her again makes you scarce and scarcity creates value. Economics boring but factual. Hollywood movies exciting but complete BS. So this all stems back to my quote that you haven't quite grasped yet " you can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality". Translation the longer you ignore the reality of your situation the longer you will suffer.
I'm sorry you are here you absolutely do not deserve this treatment.
