Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it. I’ll play it cool and make sure I’m not too overly available. I don’t want to change who I am and pretend like I’m something I’m not. Im doing my best to think logically and not emotionally. Thanks for the reminder though. I have some emotional moments but I have those on my own, it’s nothing that she sees. Tonight was rough for some reason.
Like I said though, I’m playing it cool. I haven’t reached out at all and I’ve stayed NC. As you said I’m trying to love her unconditionally and let go of the outcome. I would say overall I’m doing better. I’m reading, I’m running, I’m lifting, I’m connecting with a lot of friends and staying busy. I’m working, I’m seeing family.
Honestly I was gonna take a break from the boards for awhile. I’m totally open to advice and suggestions from everyone but I am here because I want to save my marriage and I think it can happen. I know some of the advice on here is that if I even speak to W or were to ever take her back even if she wanted to recon then that’s me being a door mat and she’ll walk again down the road but again I’m here to try to save my marriage. I get the way to do that is to let go and drop the rope, which I’m doing but again I’m here because I love my wife. Not to hear how she’s a horrible person, she’s not. & not to hear how I’m a pushover for even wanting to recon.
It’s divorce busting. I’m here trying to bust my divorce guys.
I’m open to 2x4s and advice for things I’m not seeing clearly but insults and digs because of how I’m feeling about things doesn’t seem to helpful and honestly sometimes I feel the need to defend my wife on here which I’d never thought I’d say at the beginning of this thing.
